As a child many things are thrust upon us. In the first 6 years of our life we learn to crawl, walk, talk, speak coherently, read, write and to listen. Subconsciously we also take in everything we see on a daily basis. Everything that is around us is thrown into boxes into our computer hard drive of a brain and tossed into a storage unit in the far reaches of the subconscious to be used at a later date. It is also during this time and because of those boxes we learn habits. Habits that can make or break us. These habits can also set us on life paths. As children, we are completely unaware of these habits. We believe that these are normal everyday ways of life, because we live what we see and we do as we’re told.

As a teenager, our brains become quite fuzzy. We rebel, we believe we know every truth in the world and that those truths are correct. We crave to be loved, validated and seen by others. Sometimes not even seeing ourselves. More information is hidden in our brains, mixed in with our childhood traumas and memories. We start forming friendships with others. We put those people down. We put ourselves down. We temporarily start seeing everyone older than us as the enemy or a pawn or advantage to our life game. At 14 we typically start high school and at that time we are being taught classes that may or not make a difference in our life path. Most of it, we won’t use. I am still waiting to see how Pythagorean’s theorem works into my everyday life. If you find out, let me know. We are told that we need to grow up fast while still staying young. That we have it easy and we should take advantage of being young. To grasp every opportunity that we can because you don’t know what you got til it’s gone.

At the same time we are learning what being a teenager is all about, we are stressing on what society has taught us. That we have to have our whole lives figured out by the time we turn 18. We have to start thinking about our future from the moment we start school. Constantly being told we have to have a career, goals and more schooling in order to have the most money and achieve success. And that career choice is being questioned at every step that we take from the moment we can talk. Constantly being asked “what do you want to be when you grow up?” So instead of making smart life choices based on our own experience we are basing our decisions on what others are telling us we need to do.

Also during this time we have our families ideals forced upon us. Shoved down our throats on a daily basis. You can only date when you are this old. You can’t wear those clothes or dye your hair like that because I don’t approve. But, I’m not going to tell you why. For a large part of the population, our parents stop communicating with us. Which makes us feel unloved. Even though that isn’t true. In the eyes of a teenager, we see this as a void in our life that needs filled. Maybe we turn to self harm, drug abuse or sex. Even meaningless sex can temporarily put a patch on a wound. Although we don’t know it, when these band aid’s fall off, we are left with a deeper wound that is pouring out blood. Our arms could be falling off and we don’t notice because we are numb.

If your family is religious that sets a whole other set of ideals upon us. Especially depending on what genre your parents are from. You can’t date outside your race. You can only marry the opposite sex. You can’t practice anything outside of “our” religion. What I believe you believe and there is no other way of life out there.

Then after high school, we start making harder choices. We move out, we meet new people, we date, we break up, we get married, we divorce, we have children and we generally make poor life choices. Those that don’t, well, let’s face it….everyone makes poor life choices. It just depends on how high we have set the bar for ourselves. What may seem like a “sin” to some means nothing to others. It’s in these years that we start seeing our relationships for what they are. Those old boxes from our childhood constantly creeping in to teach us lessons in life. Our subconscious sees we are happy in our relationship and it starts rummaging around in those dusty old boxes and basically says, hey, remember that thing that happened when you were 8. Yeah, that thing you didn’t want to remember? Let that sit in and see how that relates to your current relationship. Then we start creating drama in our lives based on this event that has been rehashed. Because we were never taught to communicate properly or help ourselves in a positive way. We start taking our anger, frustration and sadness out on everyone around us. Until there is no one left. And then, a large majority of our population dies bitter and alone.

Somehow society got off track. We thought it was necessary to teach years of history and math, instead of teaching life skills that could be helping us as an adult. We always are told you have to be bigger and better than the person around you. You have to be the smartest, the richest, the thinnest, the most amazing person with all the talents. But, that box at the back of your brain hard drive, keep filling it up with your emotions until it busts. Don’t deal with it, because, your pain is what makes you richer in life. Is that the you you want to be? It’s definitely not on my to do list. I am not sure how to make the changes to our world that is much needed. It might not be in my wheel house. But, I can make others around me in my loving circle….see. See the way the world has declined. This way you can all help me figure out how to fix this broken system, for us. For us paranormal loving, free spirited, witchy individuals.

Let’s do spells together. Create magic. Create a world that is better to live in. Better to be a part of. Let’s love deep. Not just others, but, ourselves. Let’s help each other dig deep and clean up those dusty old boxes. Let’s be the shoulder. Let’s use our words to communicate, live and breathe love. Without judgments.

May you find happiness in your heart, love for yourself and joy in each other. Blessings to you all.

Much love,

Wendy